This week friends of mine have had to attend funerals of two young men in the prime of their lives. They were totally unrelated but the funerals were just a day apart. One was of a murder victim, the other was a young man who felt unwell one day and thought he had a bug, three weeks later he was dead.
Both circumstances so unexpected and heartrendingly sad for all involved. One day they were living their lives and planning their future, then the next it’s all over. As quick as that, no warning, just, THE END!
This got me to thinking about how much we take things for granted in our every day lives and how much time we waste worrying about the most trivial things. Our lives are consumed with going to work to pay the bills and, if we’re lucky, save for a holiday once a year or to treat ourselves to a night out or something new. We are stuck on a seemingly never ending treadmill doing the same old things over and over and not really living.
We take it for granted that we have all the time in the world and that we are going to live to a rip old age. That we will work all our lives to buy a nice house and hopefully have a little nest egg to retire with and that’s when we’ll start living. That’s the time we say we’ll have time to relax and enjoy our lives and go on all those holidays we always dreamed of. But what if that time never comes? What if just as we’re about to retire with your hard earned next egg, ready to start living the life you dreamed all these years of you drop down dead of a heart attack or you become so frail through age related illness that you never get to do any of those things?
What about all those people with long term, terminal illness? That could happen to any one of us. One day everything is fine and dandy, we’re trudging away on our humdrum treadmill, working for the man, then the next day some doctor tells you you have an incurable disease and they don’t know how long you’ve got! It could be weeks, months, years, who knows. That’s what happened to my friend and she has spent the last eight years on death row! I say death row because that’s what it is. You’ve been given a death sentence and now you’ve just gotta ride it out and hope you have enough time and can stay well enough to at least try to enjoy what time you have left.
So why don’t we live our lives?
Why do we just presume that we have all the time in the world?
What’s stopping us from living life to the fullest and making every second count?
Sometimes you’ve just got to live your life like there’s no tomorrow because tomorrow is not guaranteed. We are not promised a minimum of eighty years where we will have good health and a lengthy retirement. Today is what matters, so make it count!
Chase your dreams.
Forgive yourself and others.
Dance in the rain.
Do all the crazy shit you want to do.
Don’t let other peoples drama ruin your day.
Most importantly, be grateful for every second of every day and for every person in your life!
“Sometimes the words we leave unspoken are the most important ones that should have been said.” – Unknown
Love and happiness