OK, so it’s best I tell you from the get go that this is going to be a bit of a rant!
In my previous post How to use the Law of Attraction for weight loss! I touched briefly on the celebrity portrayal of perfection and how, when we, as mere mortals, see these celebs in all their perfect glory it can be a bit overwhelming and disheartening. There seems to be a culture of photo shopping, cropping, editing, filters, botox, veneers, hair extensions and eyelashes that has transformed your average Joe, or Jane, from plain and ordinary to next level, almost unrecognisable, super model beautiful!
I saw a photo on Instagram today of a reality TV star and I almost didn’t recognise her! It was a beautiful picture and I cannot deny that she looked absolutely stunning. However, she had had her make done professionally (no chance of anything other than a perfect complexion), she had been contoured and highlighted to within an inch of her life, she had false eyelashes, coloured contacts, hair extensions that had then been professionally styled, I know she has only recently had her second set of veneers done, she was sprayed tanned, body contoured, very well lit, she was standing in such a way as to highlight all her best features and hide those not so perfect ones and there was at least one filter on the picture! I wont even get started on the botox and lip fillers! Now I can’t tell you how much effort this one photo must have taken but it was put out there as if it was just another bedroom selfie! Now that is what really got my blood boiling.
I have two young daughters who, I know, both follow this particular reality star. The youngest especially looks up to her as a bit of an inspiration. An empowered young woman who has made a name for herself on TV and now has her own range of make-up and fashion accessories. It’s a modern day success story and one that I would normally commend. There is nothing nicer than seeing someone go from nothing to being a successful, young business person, but, I cannot, and do not condone portraying yourself in such a way that it makes your young, impressionable followers feel like they too have to achieve this unrealistic image of perfection!
The girl in question is only young herself and when she first hit our screens was an awkward, slightly plump, very pretty girl. She had nice teeth, lovely hair, a pretty face and a lovely figure. It was obvious she wan’t comfortable in her own skin, but instead of feeling that she could learn to love herself and blossom from a slightly awkward teenager into beautiful a young lady she has ended up having numerous cosmetic procedures, botox, lip fillers, hair extensions, the list goes on and on. The girl is barely in her twenties!
How did we get to this point as a society? Why do our young women feel they need to do all of this to themselves to feel beautiful. How many horror stories have there been about fillers going wrong and people ending up disfigured, surgery leaving people with life changing scars and disfigurements. Young girls left bald where they have worn hair extensions for so long that their natural hair has fallen out. Why do we need to filter and photo shop every photo we post on social media so that the person we portray is barely a reflection of what we really look like. When did we go from whitening our teeth with baking soda toothpaste to having perfectly healthy teeth ground down to stumps and replaced with extreme veneers that look too big for the mouth and are so straight and so white they look like luminous, white gum shields stuck in our mouths.
What message are we sending our children, boys as well as girls. Where does it stop? When is it one filter too far?
We need to teach our young people that, YES, it is OK to be the best version of yourself that you can be. YES, it is good to take care of yourself and strive to present yourself as best you can. But you don’t need to go to the extreme. You don’t need to alter what God gave you. We are all beautiful. We must learn to love ourselves from the inside and then the outside radiates beauty that has no comparison.
I think it is so sad that people in the public eye, especially young people, are made to feel so inadequate in their own skin that they strive to transform themselves beyond recognition. The trouble is that it’s never enough. The botox fades and needs topping up, each time you need more and more. To start at such a young age is so unnecessary. Lip fillers get bigger and bigger. Hair extensions become more and more. Weight loss gets out of control. Teeth are never quite as white as they were when they were first done. Breast implants still sag after time and need a lift or a tweek or maybe even to just go up one more size. The spray tan needs topping up (since when were we sun kissed all year round like we’ve just been to the Maldives for three weeks!)
Let’s make a point to tell each other how special we are. How beautiful we all are in our own individual ways. Let’s promote self love and self care rather than picture perfect idealism. Let’s see if we can turn this culture of perfection around.
Love and happiness